Valentineโ€™s day challenge

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  • DAY ONE: Let's talk about security and safety

    DAY ONE: Let's talk about security and safety

    In this video Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Brya Hanan and her husband Jayme Hanan talk about the importance of security and safety in a relationship and offer listeners their first challenge. The challenge consists of looking into their Valentine's eyes and letting them know what would help them feel more safe and secure in the relationship.

  • DAY TWO: Attachment Style and Childhood

    DAY TWO: Attachment Style and Childhood

    In this video Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Brya Hanan and her husband Jayme introduce the concept of having a secure or insecure attachment style. Attachment styles form during the first three years of life and are based on your experiences with your caregivers. The challenge is to talk about your childhood experiences and whether or not you believe you have a secure attachment.

  • DAY THREE: Let's feel seen, heard, known, and loved

    DAY THREE: Let's feel seen, heard, known, and loved

    In this challenge Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Brya Hanan and her husband Jayme share the importance of feeling seen, heard, known, and loved, and invite viewers to practice sharing the little things they notice so that their Valentine does feel truly seen, heard, known, and loved.

    If you need help with completing the challenge consider using these sentence starters:

    I notice _________ when you ________.

    When you say ________, I can tell _______.

    I appreciate when you ___________.

    I really love ________.

  • DAY FOUR: Let's feel physically safe

    DAY FOUR: Let's feel physically safe

    Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Brya Hanan and her husband Jayme talk about the importance of physical safety in establishing emotional safety. In this challenge, viewers are asked to synchronize breathing and then give each other a 30-second hug.

  • DAY FIVE: Let's get vulnerable.

    DAY FIVE: Let's get vulnerable.

    Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Brya Hanan and her husband Jayme, share the importance of vulnerability and how fear often gets in the way of vulnerability. They then challenge viewers to talk more openly about what makes them afraid in the relationship.

  • DAY SIX: Let's get reconciled.

    DAY SIX: Let's get reconciled.

    In this video Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Brya Hanan and her husband Jayme, share the importance of forgiveness and reconciliation in a relationship. In this challenge, you will be encouraged to forgive your Valentine for the things you have done that ruptured your emotional connection.

  • DAY SEVEN: Let's become unified.

    DAY SEVEN: Let's become unified.

    In this video Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Brya Hanan and her husband share the importance of understanding and honoring differences in a relationship as a means to create more unity. In this challenge, you will have the opportunity to share your key differences with your Valentine and explore how you can better honor those differences to become more unified.